My Brain Has a Problem With Randomness
...And I guess yours, too—Using The Law of Detachment to Control Randomness.
I’ve suffered from this issue since my childhood. I hate randomness.
Ok, we all suffer from it. But in my case, it is extreme. I had to learn to control it. I had to experiment with many different methodologies. I have always been a perfectionist, which enhanced my fixation with control.
And the idea of try having control over almost everything led me to not-so-good experiences and situations.
So, I’m here to share with you how I’ve learned to control randomness.
I needed some fixing. Definitely…and urgently!
But first,
Let me introduce a concept to you that can help you understand randomness.
Do you remember the movie “Home Alone” with Macaulay Culkin? I know you do, but let me describe a scene to you.
…There’s this guy at the door. He comes closer to the side window of the main door. His silhouette got closer to the window, and he started knocking.
Knock, knock, knock, knock, knock, knock, knock. Seven times, he knocked.
Outside, a guy was fixing the electrical cables that provided electricity to Kevin’s house.
The guy that was knocking on the door hit the bell… “ding, dong…” A white hand, with a ring on the annular finger, appears looking and reaching the alarm clock, which showed a blinking 12:00.
They shouted: “We slept in!”
In the videos below, you can watch the series of events that led to Kevin’s family leaving him home alone. Watch them all. You’ll see the progression of events leading to “Increased randomness.”
Take 1: Where it all started: Kevin Does Not Get Cheese Pizza.
Take 2: Kevin fights Mum: Sleeping in the third-floor room.
Take 3: They Slept Over: He Becomes “Home Alone.”
The scenes show us how life works. I know, I know, the movie is funny, but I’m not sure life is that funny. Randomness certainly is not.
It’s not possible to predict what will happen. It’s not possible to be certain. The level of uncertainty in life is just staggeringly high. If you want to feed your brain in search of certainty, you’ll only increase anxiety and stress.
What the Home Alone movie teaches us is the concept of chain events that create randomness and enhance it. It is what I call…“Increased Randomness.”
Let me go back to what I’ve learned to control randomness.
They Wanted Me Out, So I Left
In 2019, a series of events started at my company, events that affected me. I was a manufacturing director responsible for managing two factories in two different countries.
I was in charge of developing a multi-million dollar project, the construction and engineering of one of the biggest dairy factories in the region. It was a 30 million-dollar project. Which I successfully brought home. But this success was the starting point for discussions with the owner's family. After that, I was turned into the target of the family.
They wanted me out.
I achieved (with the help of a team of course) the biggest project in the company's 40-year history. I became very close to the owner, who was +70 years old. A millionaire man eager for success, I learned a lot from him. That was the beginning of a series of events that ended in me deciding to leave the corporate world and the dreams of others to pursue my dream.
Randomness at its best.
Experiencing the effects of randomness and searching for patterns that did not exist, I had to learn to live with randomness. That’s when I learned about “The Narrative Fallacy.”
But before I share with you how I finished my chapter in the corporate world and started my own business dream, I want to share with you how I managed to control randomness…
I pushed myself to learn to prove what was really happening in my life to provide a conclusion to my brain. This quest for knowledge on how my brain works on randomness and patterns drove me to discover one of the best books I’ve ever read about spirituality.
Yes, you read right, spirituality.
You see, we forget, spirituality is a tool to make you grow inside. Religion on the other hand is a tool to make you appear you grow on the outside.
Anyways…
The name of the book…
“The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.” By Deepak Chopra.
One of the laws is called “The Law of Detachment.” This law changed my perspective about randonmness, control, and anxiety.
Are you ready to learn about it?
Let’s go into the deep sea of the law of detachment.
The Law of Detachment
As presented by Deepak Chopra in "The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success," revolves around the principle of releasing attachment to the outcome of our intentions, desires and efforts.
This law doesn’t imply disengagement or indifference but rather a state of openness to all possibilities. It's about embracing uncertainty as the fertile ground where creativity and solutions flourish.
Understanding Attachment
Attachment often stems from a fear of uncertainty and a desire for security.
It’s the belief that happiness and fulfillment come from external sources. Chopra argues that such attachments can lead to anxiety, stress, and disappointment because they are based on the fear of loss and the unknown.
Chopra suggests that we can find true freedom and inner peace by letting go of attachment and embracing uncertainty.
Instead of relying on external sources for happiness, we can cultivate a sense of contentment and joy from within. This shift in mindset allows us to approach life with a greater sense of ease and acceptance.
When we let go of our attachments, we release ourselves from needing external validation and approval. This enables us to trust in our abilities and intuition, leading to a greater sense of self-confidence.
By embracing uncertainty, we learn to adapt and evolve in the face of change rather than resisting it.
This allows us to fully experience and appreciate the present moment without being bound by expectations or limitations. Ultimately, we open ourselves up to a more fulfilling and peaceful existence by understanding attachment and choosing to let go.
Uncertainty is where life unfolds most creatively and freely.
When we accept uncertainty, we open ourselves up to the infinite possibilities the universe offers.
Freedom from the Past
Detachment also involves letting go of past conditioning and beliefs. Many of our attachments are rooted in past experiences, fears, or societal norms. By detaching, we give ourselves the freedom to create a new reality.
By freeing ourselves from the grip of the past, we invite new perspectives and possibilities into our lives.
Letting go of past conditioning allows us to break free from limiting beliefs and patterns that no longer serve us.
This liberation from the past enables us to embrace life with an open heart and a sense of limitless potential.
The Role of Faith and Trust
This law is deeply intertwined with faith and trust in the universe (or a higher power).
It suggests that a grand design or intelligence governs all, and by detaching, we align ourselves with this greater plan.
It means acknowledging that we cannot control everything and instead trusting in the unfolding of life.
This does not mean becoming passive or complacent but rather actively participating in life while remaining open to unexpected outcomes.
By cultivating faith and trust, we build resilience and navigate challenges with grace. We learn to embrace the uncertainty of life and find peace in the knowledge that everything is unfolding exactly as it should.
knowing that there’s the ALL, where everything is abundant, gives us peace of mind. Things will happen in the best way possible for our intentions and desires.
Impact on Decision-Making
In practical terms, detachment affects how we make decisions. Instead of being driven by fear or a rigid attachment to a specific outcome, decisions become more intuitive, aligned with our true selves, and in tune with the flow of life.
Detachment allows us to tap into our intuition and make decisions that align with our authentic selves.
Instead of being influenced by external pressures or the need for validation, we can trust our inner guidance.
This shift in decision-making can lead to greater fulfillment and satisfaction in our lives.
By letting go of attachment and embracing uncertainty, we create space for growth, self-discovery, and the possibility of experiencing life in its full range of beauty and wonder.
Below, I share with you a mindmap I created for you.
You can study the law by yourself, but these are the fundamental principles and ideas you need to know. 👇🏻
Implementing The Law
Here’s the key to what I’ve learned.
To control randomness, I learned to use the Law of Detachment and Transcending Meditation altoghether.
I could write a long article about it, but let’s have David Lynch explain What is transcendental meditation.
In the following video, you’ll understand how the ALL works.
How meditation helps you understand yourself and effectively detach from the result.
You can also use…
Mindfulness Practices: Engaging in mindfulness and meditation can help cultivate a state of detachment.
Reflective Journaling: Writing about uncertainties and fears can provide insights into our attachments and how to release them.
Before finishing this article, let me finish my story on how I ended my relationship with the corporate world after 13 years in it.
I promised to finish it.
Back in March 2023, I resigned from the corporate world. After 14 years and many achievements, it was time for me to exercise the Law of detachment and run the path to achieve my dream.
I was able to buy a small dairy. I know I can turn that small company into a powerful force in the industry and the region.
Today, they see me as a competitor, as a threat. I see myself…free, capable, investing time, and life in something is going to be mine. Pursuing my dream.
I never knew this would turn this way. But I’m so enjoying the process.
I keep using the Law of Detachment. I’m a testimony of how powerful the law is. Things occur in different ways, and I cannot command things to happen in a particular way.
My intentions and desires are kept clean and clear. I work aligned with my intention and desire. The result just happens the best way it can, because I let life do what it is expert in doing, random power solutions, that work best because the come from the ALL.
Bringing me the best solution, the best customer, the best client, and the best timing.
I’m not perfect at all, but I’ve progressed. I keep learning every day. I keep progressing every day. I keep detaching every day.
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To your success.
Detach yourself from results.
Until next time.
J Dennis (Detached) Serrano.